Long Hair And Older Women
Forty-seven-12 months-old TGB reader, Peggy Race, emailed recently asking about old women and lengthy hair.
Peggy’s proper that usually, the advice for girls older than (even) 35 is to cut their hair brief, and lengthy hair, especially long grey hair is cause for remark, usually unfavorable. The reasons given depend upon the source:
1. Women’s magazines: Short hair is extra manageable.
2. Salon homeowners: Long hair makes girls past 35 look older than they are.
3. Bigots: Outdated women look stupid trying to appear younger.
None of these causes is valid. Short hair takes a lot of work starting with frequent visits to the hair cutter. Except you might be blessed with the form of hair you may run your fingers by and look great, retaining brief hair neat can involve curlers or straighteners or curling irons and mousse or gels or whatever else keeps it in place.
My hair has grown almost all the way down to my weave frontal piece waist now. I trim off the lifeless ends every now and then, wash it every different day, let it air dry – it takes only an hour – and brush it. How easy is that. I pull it again in a clip for a low pony tail or pin it up in a bun. Either approach takes only a couple of minutes. Marian Van Eyk McCain of elderwomanblog (pictured), wears her long, grey hair in a single braid.
It’s conventional wisdom that long hair on older ladies calls attention to wrinkles and sags and makes them look older. Older than what This cause presupposes that wanting one’s age is a foul thing which I’ve spent nearly six years arguing in opposition to on this blog. Plus, salon homeowners have a vested interest in short hair to keep women coming back for a reduce each few weeks, so don’t take heed to them.
As to the last cause, unless a 50-plus woman is walking round in a miniskirt, bare midriff and a lot make-up with her lengthy, gray hair, I do not understand the objection. And even if she does wear all these things, who am I – otherwise you – to judge her.
Nearly 40 years ago while strolling throughout West 57th Street in New York City, I noticed a girl in entrance of me with long, straight hair hanging almost to her waist. No huge deal; many girls wore long hair then, however not gray hair, as this girl had.
I might had a pal who had gone fully grey in our mid-20s, so I used to be curious to know the way previous this lady was. I sped up and reached her at the next nook. Hoping for subtlety as we waited for the sunshine, I took a peek at her face. She was not, like my buddy, prematurely grey. She was, I used to be guessing, in her mid- to late fifties and she regarded fabulous. Of course, she was also tall, slender, had cheekbones and a smooth jawline, 4 things nature overlooked of my anatomy.
Even so, I decided then and there that after i obtained outdated, I’d put on my grey hair lengthy. A part of the reason for the choice, even at age 35 or so, was that I disliked each moment and resented every greenback I spent on the hair shop. I believed it was obligatory then for – properly, what did I believe I am undecided now; it most likely had one thing to do with males.
Long hair is problematic in old age if it is thinning. Mine is and I am nonetheless vain sufficient to not wish to showcase my balding spots. That’s the place the bun is available in; it covers the skinny space on my crown fairly properly.
Given the prevalence of age discrimination in the office, it’s in all probability a nasty concept, if you’re not retired, to stop coloring your hair and wear it long or in an old-fashioned bun – although in the past few years, young skilled women have increasingly worn buns. But I’m fairly sure the identical type in an older lady can be seen as “letting herself go.”
If, nevertheless, employment is not a concern and it pleases you to have lengthy hair, gray or not, I say go for it, Peggy. The people who find themselves who’re pressuring you to chop it are out of line.