The new Hair Style
With all the current drama within the natural hair group and a few people even saying telling the pure hair neighborhood to kiss them where they sun do not shine.. I needed to publish about acceptance. Not just hair acceptance but, accepting people for who they are, fully.
This goes to be from girl to woman. You *points to your eyes* and Me *points again at my eyes*
There are a whole lot of challenges being a lady, being black, being pure and heck just being human and those challenges are a part of life. Nothing hurts more in life than not being accepted by others. I have never looked for acceptance from strangers but, from these close to me, I’ve always been sensitive.
Let me get a little personal: I’ve a friend who after i first met her, I regarded up to her. I thought she was all the pieces I wished to be as a mom and wife. I believed she was just awesome. Problem She didn’t indian blonde hair like me for me and I discovered myself attempting to alter me to be like her. She would critique all the pieces I did. How I spoke, how I dressed, everything. Being round her was hell to say the least and disturbing.
I spent years trying to be her her and would hate all the pieces about me because it wasn’t like her. Sounds so unhappy now after i write it out. I used to be miserable. I wasn’t myself. I was not ME.
After reading a book about Acceptance from the Peaceful Answer Character Schooling Program, I decided to be ME. If anyone was going to be my pal you had to accept me for who I’m. My personality was not changing for anyone and that i let folks know their commentary and approval was not needed.
We should cease on the lookout for acceptance from others. People will always have an opinion about what you are doing , appear to be, etc. Do not let them make you feel unhealthy about your self. Whether you loosen up your hair, put on weaves, wear wigs, rock an afro, no matter. That’s your selection. Nobody has to co-signal your journey through life.